You know when you have that friend and they've always sort of been around but then there's a moment when you are looking at them and out of nowhere you get this little spark in the pit of your stomach and it just grows and grows until you can't deny it and it fills up your entire being? You feel ridiculous lying in bed at night, thinking about him and how suddenly everything is different. You've been bitten and you're in trouble.
Falling for a guy that you have previously friend zoned is... Not fun... I do realize that there are theories that boys never REALLY friend-zone their friends, however, due to personal experience, I disagree. I'm not saying that you don't have a chance with this person... They may be experiencing the same feelings as you or just haven't quite had that electric moment of realizing yet... Or? They might never experience it.
If he's showing really obvious signs? (Let's face it, guys aren't all that subtle) Then maybe you should be honest with him. It might be the start of something magical?
But if not.. Then the trick is not to let yourself fall too hard. Take care of you. Your heart is delicate and sometimes you have to do the right thing by you even if that means putting yourself first. Take some time away from him and this doesn't completely ignoring the guy, it mean maybe passing on your weekly video games night this week because you have some homework and it means maybe, cutting that phone call short and not texting back right away... This doesn't have to go on forever... Just until you can let your feelings die down a bit.
The next hurdle is the jealousy, he probably has other friends that are girls, or even a crush, or WORSE.... A girlfriend, yikes... The easiest to deal with would probably the other friends that are girls... Don't deny that pang of the evil green monster in your stomach, let yourself feel it... It's not going to go away quicker if you try and suppress it, like I said, don't kid yourself. There really is no cure for jealousy, it's a sign that you really care about this person. Maybe even a sign that you should open up and be honest with this guy? I know you are risking your friendship but it could lead to something really incredible.
Girlfriends and crushes are more tricky. Especially when friend boy is having trouble with this person and all you can think about is how much better you would be... It's so much harder when you are close friends and have been for a while because you know them so much better and know exactly what they like and how to make them happy... Much happier then anyone else could. Again, jealousy is something that you can't turn off but you have to find ways to deal with it, especially if you want to continue being friends. If another girl is involved then it probably isn't best to disclose your feelings but instead offer as much support as you can manage, don't sabotage. You do care about his happiness after all?
I know it's difficult and scary but sometimes it's just better to tell him how you feel. It could be the start of something great!
Good luck
-We are golden
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