By the way... This is for guys AND girls... Yes, that's right... It is okay for a girl to ask someone out on a date. Deal with it...
Okay so firstly, find someone that you are comfortable talking to. There is nothing worse then spending a significant amount of time with someone, alone, that you have nothing in common with (awkward...). If you don't have much to talk about, then you're probably not going to have a very good date. Dates are for getting to know someone, and spending more time with them in a more then friend kind of way so find the right person for that.
Side note: If this person is someone you are already friends with and you're pretty sure they are going to say yes (see previous friend-zone posts), then your date is going to be so rad... Moving from a great friendship into something more can be so great. When there is already a friendship foundation there, you know you're going to feel comfortable which can only lead to a great date (or dates...?)
Next, is the hard part. Plucking up the courage to actually ask the person. The trick is to make it clear that it's a 'date', otherwise the message can be misconstrued and lead to misunderstandings and that isn't fun. Say something like "Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to go on a date this weekend?".... Yup! It is that simple! The answer you are looking for is.... "Yes, I'd love to"... Or something along those lines. If it's a no, then laugh it off, congratulate yourself for trying and move on. No hard feelings.
It's best to have something planned before actually asking. Don't do the awkward, not to mention ANNOYING:
"So what do you want to do?"
"I don't mind, what do you want to do?"
"I don't mind..."
Once they have agreed you can say something like "Oh cool, I was thinking we could go for a walk on the beach?" or... "Great! We should go and see this great movie coming out?" Something like that... Something chilled but at least it's SOMETHING!
Lastly, just be yourself. If they don't love you for that then they are not worth your time!
Good luck everyone
- We are Golden
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