Angler Fish

"My ex boy-friend won't leave me alone. It is definitely over between us but he can't accept it and won't stop trying to contact me..."

This actually rings a lot of bells. I know multiple similar cases, including my own, partly. Extreme cases can actually lead to police involvement so... Tread carefully. Love can make you do crazy things.

Minor cases, are probably much more common and easier to deal with. I'd say, if you feel comfortable enough, set up a coffee date (bring a friend for support, or have a code word you can text to someone so that they can come and rescue you, if you need to get out of there). Or if not, maybe a phone call? Let them know that you've moved on and that their constant attempts to contact you are starting to make you feel uncomfortable... Be firm but fair and give them a chance to get some closure. This, I feel, is important when getting over someone. The reason that they keep trying to get in touch is probably because they feel that they still have a chance with you and they will warp anything that you do that may suggest this. So, in order to avoid this, you have to make sure that you are super clear and honest but there is no need to be rude about it.

If this doesn't work... Things might get worse. I know of people who essentially stalk their ex partners and bombard their social media platforms and cell phones with messages that can be annoying or even hurtful. If this is you... Chill out dude. Take a look at my break-up post. I know you're going through a hard time right now but you have to respect your ex's feelings, wants and needs as well as your own. At the end of the day, you do care about his or her's happiness right? Sometimes that means leaving them alone. You can still be a part of each other's lives in the future, but until you are over your feelings, you need to take some space apart.

A way of dealing with this kind of behavior is telling your parents or a teacher. Things can get pretty serious if you don't address it and ultimately threaten your safety. Warning signs include, violent messages, threats, if you notice your ex following you around, if your ex is turning up at your house at 2am knocking on your window... And not in a romantic way. This type of thing is NOT OKAY. It's starting to take a scary turn and it's best to nip it in the bud before anything really serious happens. Telling someone shows your ex that you are serious. Usually this does the trick, but if not, you should seriously consider going to the police. I know this sounds a bit much, but if you are starting to feel unsafe and uncomfortable the majority of the time, you have to do something about it.

Good luck everyone
-We are Golden