Boring is Best

"I've been in a relationship for a while now and we've finished the honey moon stage, we're settling into a routine and we still haven't had a fight, or any drama at all... "

Isn't it wonderful? Bask in it. Let it be boring!

Speaking for myself, I like it. I mean, drama can be interesting and exciting at times... but it's also draining. It can take a toll on you, and on your relationship. If you see my previous post about important elements to a healthy relationship, you'll see that none of it involves drama.

Drama can come from a variety of things, the biggest being lack of trust. A couple that trusts one another can often find themselves in the 'boring' stage because there is nothing to fight about. There is complete faith that their partner is being loyal, has good intentions and isn't telling lies. Doesn't that sound good to you? Sounds pretty good to me.

There are ways to spice up a relationship that don't involve drama if things are getting really dull. Firstly, break the routine. Don't do the same thing more then twice? I know of a couple that have dinner on the couch in front of a movie every night. Some are completely content with this, however the excitement wears off pretty quickly. The best way to deal with this is to change it up. Go out for dinner, invite friends over for dinner, have dinner with your parents and so on. Speaking from personal experience, dates make things fun. It's a chance to dress up and do something formal and classy together; it's romantic. Another way to dodge the doldrums is to do things for each other, gifts, organizing events etc, make it a competition! A couple I know are celebrating their 10th wedding anniversary this year so they are committing to attending/ organizing 10 events together, they had a themed party for friends and family, they marched in a charity march together, etc. Things like that can help to spice it up.

If things are getting so boring you can't stand it, maybe it's a sign to take a break. Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Go on a holiday with the girls or the guys and take a break from the routine and your partner, it will clear your head and you will be able to source the boredom and establish a plan to deal with it.

Good luck everyone
- We are Golden